Most of us are in slightly less than normal circumstances right now – to put it mildly. My heart goes out to those living in small apartments in big cities that are on strict lockdown. I’m an introvert and can fill long hours with my own entertainment, but to be caged up day after day would even get on this bookworm’s nerves. And what about the families that are suddenly thrown together to try and do work, life, and school all at the same time – while wondering what is going to happen to the economy and their paychecks?
So much can change in our external circumstances that can have a huge impact on our quality of life – in reality and in our perception. What can we do to strengthen ourselves against the emotional destabilizing that can happen as a result of that?
In my last blog, I shared about identifying and savoring our anchor truths. These anchor truths take the form of well-traveled neurological pathways that ground us to the facets of the nature of God that we connect to most deeply.
In this blog, I want to explore the concept of the things in life that are portable. Things that are not dependent on outside circumstances, not people, or the economy, or leaders, or governments or anything. When much of life is uncertain and stressful, it gives us some emotional fortitude and stability to focus on the things that are untouched and unchanged. Wherever you go or in whatever circumstances you find yourself, what do you have?
An Intervening God
Whether you have served the Lord for three months or three decades, you will have experienced some degree of His intervention, else you wouldn’t be following Him. That proof of His attention to your life goes with you everywhere. Take a moment to look for the patterns. He is so eager to show Himself to us, that I don’t think it takes years of relationship to develop patterns we can identify. We just don’t take the time to do it. Yet, He does intervene, over and over again, personally, intimately, and THAT goes with us anywhere.
Your Identity
The circumstances of the world you live in can throw you into a whirlpool of crazy. Maybe you are so limited and so bogged down, even oppressed, and very little of your design can be expressed. I agree that your life circumstances CAN limit the expression of design, but it CANNOT negate the existence of it. You are who you are, whether you can ever lift a finger to show the world. So, you are thrown off balance right now, you are in a milieu that forces you to do whatever everyone else needs instead of doing what you like. Instead of focusing on what isn’t, celebrate what IS, and always will be. God’s fingerprints on your DNA are unchangeable. What do you know about how He has wired you? What can you savor with Him, even if it is put on the back shelf for now?
Your Journey
Friends, ain’t NOBODY gonna take this away from you! You have lived some portion of your life already. There have been ups and downs, good days and bad days, good choices and bad ones. Those experiences are yours – whether you are at the pinnacle of all that is good or the depths of despair. Look at what you have gained. Take the time to identify your resources. What fruits of the Spirit has God worked in you? Where have you developed character? What spiritual and/or moral authority have you gained? What is the experiential wisdom that lives inside of you? The treasures of your journey are immeasurable and utterly impervious to the changing environment. You could lose all you own, even your loved ones, and all that you have gained through your journey would still be yours. In fact, I’m willing to bet there are some of those resources that will stand you in good stead right now!
Memories
The emotional imprint of memories is one of the strongest ties to the continuum of our lives. Over and over again, God admonished the Israelites to remember. It was so important to Him that He instituted feasts and ceremonies to keep the generations connected to His interaction with them. Our memories serve as both a reminder and as a doorway into the emotional reservoirs that can revive us. Someone recently shared a story about pioneering families that had to survive long periods of absolute isolation during the bleakest weeks of winter. We think we have it bad now! And the impact on the emotional sanity of the families varied. Those who fared the best were the ones who combined memory with imagination and would set aside an evening just to talk through all the process of having the Smiths over for dinner. That exercise helped anchor them in the present by revisiting memories of the past, and it gave them an exercise for their mind. Both of those things helped keep them emotionally stable during the long winter season. Not every situation has that predictable an end, of course, but I think that we can use our memories in a variety of ways to help sustain us in the present – not to escape it, but to augment it and to keep our minds from being locked into too small of a grid.
Our Thought Patterns
This is one that I think is particularly worth examining because it cuts both ways. If we have established healthy and wise thought patterns in the times leading up to the challenging season, they will serve us well. The world can go all kinds of wonky and the way we think remains stable, and quite portable. If we have nurtured unhealthy, weak, or unwise thought patterns, well, they will follow us too, and the results won’t be anywhere near as nice. So, what ARE your thought patterns? Look first on the positive side. What has God built in you? Ponder how you thought about things ten years ago and how you think about them now. Do you see some positive changes? One of the big ones for me was a conversation I had with Arthur many years ago. He had a rough day, and was spending the last hour before quitting time entering data into a spreadsheet. I asked him why he was doing that when someone else could easily do it. He explained to me that when he couldn’t achieve a $100 day, he was going to get at least $1 out of it. In other words, he knew the day hadn’t gone the way he would’ve liked. He didn’t get the $100 day. But there was still SOMETHING he could leverage, and he did. That changed my whole way of thinking. Just because you didn’t hit the bull’s eye doesn’t mean you can’t make progress somewhere. Such a wise strategy against powerlessness and defeat.
Once you have identified and savored some of the positive thought patterns, take a look in the direction of the kinds that are not so very helpful in life. Can you see any? Perhaps you need to ask the Lord to shine His light and reveal them, since our own way of thinking is often too close to recognize. One that He recently revealed to me was some prejudices I didn’t even know I had. I was shocked and horrified. That set me on an intense and very productive journey to understand instead of judge, and to see the value where I can, even if I don’t share all the same views.
These are just a few examples of things that are portable, I am sure there are many others. I think that this is a golden opportunity to investigate, learn, and grow, because, hey! We’re in the middle of it and have no idea when it will end.
I am a big believer in making pain productive!