The other day I was talking with a friend about progress she was making in her healing pilgrimage regarding womanliness. It was a pleasure to hear her joy and I could celebrate with her from a place of experience. Her account brought to mind someone else I know who has invested deeply in developing her bedroom and turning it into a place of beauty and femininity. She has never done this before so it is a whole new area of healing and growth as the things God placed inside her are beginning to show.
But what struck me about both of these stories is that neither of these ladies is married. Nor are they even dating, to my knowledge. There are no men on the scene. There are no husbands to make them feel more like women, no man to draw out the fragrance of their bloom. It is happening all by itself, in the secrecy of their relationship with God.
I think that is a beautiful thing.
There is a time and a place for a man or a woman to draw out the best of us, to make us more alive then we were before we met them. That’s part of the immensity of relationship as God designed it. But there is something precious about those flowers that bloom without anyone to see them but God. And if and when a man should arrive on the scene for either of these ladies, he will receive a gift in their having reached this place of fullness before he arrived.
I just wanted to take this opportunity to celebrate and encourage you to celebrate the times in your life when God drew you out, bringing forth the beauty of your design in the secrecy of your relationship with Him. Those moments are just as precious, if not more, than the ones that happen in the context of God and community.
Megan thank you for sharing these wonderful stories! I am married and this has been a huge part of my healing journey. In my marriage this was an area that was attacked and demeaned. I am blossoming here as well. God is drawing this beauty of who I am and it surprises my husband. He even is taken aback at times.
I celerate with you these beautiful women but I also celebrate for those women who have blossomed despite the conditions of their relationship with men.
I have had to move my anchors from within my marriage to with God. His words are sweeter than a lover’s words to my spirit, soul and body!
Blessings,
Sonia
Megan, this is an area that I have struggled with also,even tho I am married. So,basicly what you are saying,is that in having deeper intimacy with God,out of that comes who we really are. Its funny, because sometimes in my minds eye, I see my feminine self, but find it difficult to express it outwardly,in the way I dress,or even in how I express myself in my home. I keep things very basic,almost monochromatic. Hmmm…something I will start developing awareness of. Thank you for this post.
Rosa,
Glad that this has given you cause to go deeper into your feminine side. 🙂 It is a journey I know well! And yes, I think there is significant intimacy that comes out of those moments when God is the only one who knows just how YOU you are becoming.
Enjoy the process!
thank you. i needed these words of encouragement.